tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141117436603724178.post7982964780585911967..comments2024-02-01T05:49:19.602-08:00Comments on the bartle bulletin: Calling all Super Nanniesrunningfanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09673369666458376426noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141117436603724178.post-59304342622352069302013-08-07T12:01:22.713-07:002013-08-07T12:01:22.713-07:00Thanks for being honest, Heidi. Especially since y...Thanks for being honest, Heidi. Especially since you don't have to be. You are awesome and could just mention all the great mom-feats(fantastic birthday parties, yw activities, etc.etc.)you accomplish all the time and I would never guess that you also have moments of struggle. I don't think I have anything great to offer as far as advice goes, although in my own limited parenting experience, I find that my kids behave better when I stop what I'm doing when they misbehave and focus on them (redirecting, or just teaching why that wasn't okay) and then doing an activity with them. It's surprisingly hard to do this sometimes, because it usually happens when I'm really busy trying to accomplish my own goals and feel like I have no time to be patient. <br /><br />For some reason, I can't see the other comments, which makes me sad because I would be interested in what advice people would use! <br /><br />Good luck! You are Jeff and Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10129293716014485319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141117436603724178.post-68409152083682404502013-08-07T11:01:24.276-07:002013-08-07T11:01:24.276-07:00Well, that sounds like my house too, so when you g...Well, that sounds like my house too, so when you get some good suggestions that work, LET ME KNOW! I completely understand what you're going through and most times, I don't know what to do either. It really wears on my self-esteem as well since I tend to blame myself for their misbehavior, seeing all my faults coming through in them.Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17065383230513706402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141117436603724178.post-85879670971751380462013-08-06T14:01:14.753-07:002013-08-06T14:01:14.753-07:00i wish i could read the others' comments, cuz ...i wish i could read the others' comments, cuz i need help w/A.Rob and Marseillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13723166385445493627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141117436603724178.post-38667745508461844202013-08-06T08:48:55.491-07:002013-08-06T08:48:55.491-07:00I like the idea I read on one of the comment strin...I like the idea I read on one of the comment strings of a reward system, if the revoking privileges isn't working, maybe giving privileges will. It could be a family jar everyone is working together to fill, or an individual jar for a special one-on-one outing. The trick is remembering to add to the jar for rewards...and not want to dump the whole dang thing out when someone is particularly acting awfully! When one of my kids is acting out, sometimes it helps for me to try and figure out what the root of their behavior is. Do my best to determine what they are looking for by acting up and try to address that. Often it is just more attention from me and Adam, using their love language to give them something that makes them feel special. It's been a rougher summer than usual around here too, hang in there! School is just around the corner!Colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08016113189474926492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141117436603724178.post-40443961113190987962013-08-05T20:43:47.682-07:002013-08-05T20:43:47.682-07:00Those challenges sound tough. I wish I had a mirac...Those challenges sound tough. I wish I had a miracle solution to share with you, but I'm at a loss. Parenting is so much harder than we ever expect.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08078682458950236579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141117436603724178.post-4744100961975517352013-08-05T19:01:26.924-07:002013-08-05T19:01:26.924-07:00I wish I could be more helpful. But this sounds oh...I wish I could be more helpful. But this sounds oh, so familiar. We've yet to find a single postive/negative reinforcement/consequence that actually causes behavioral change. I sympathize. We keep having FHE, reading scriptures, and prayer & are grateful for their influence...because it could be worse?!Larshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02480090463626028978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141117436603724178.post-30852883884324402152013-08-05T17:12:44.935-07:002013-08-05T17:12:44.935-07:00When my husband was the age of your older ones he ...When my husband was the age of your older ones he had to write papers when he did bad things. I think they usually had to do with the wrong thing they did and how it could have/did turn out very bad. I think some of them were just about anything his mom wanted to make him sit down and study. He couldn't do anything fun until they were don and the older he got, the longer the papers had to be. I laughed when he told me he had to do that, but it might work. Nate and Annah Butterfieldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16055687179563605902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1141117436603724178.post-42350947542032291942013-08-05T16:45:11.184-07:002013-08-05T16:45:11.184-07:00We have the same kids. I will be watching this po...We have the same kids. I will be watching this post. For A... We have made them sit and stare at each other for 10 minutes. Then they have to list 5 things that they like about their brother... lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16046636782972429838noreply@blogger.com